Why can’t I give my partner the long-lasting sex I desire?

For some men it’s the only way they know to show intimacy and love. A man robbed of the ability to have long-lasting sex will not be able to express himself fully to someone he loves or is attracted to. Premature ejaculation robs him of his need to give and receive love through sexual intercourse.

But what is stopping men from enjoying the long-lasting sexual intimacy they deserve? Why does the failure of PE plague not only our sex life but also our daily thoughts…? Why is it happening to me?

While it may be interesting to look into the different scientific theories as to why men suffer PE, they are all speculative. To state the obvious, everyone’s situation, health, and lifestyle are vastly different and with such a range of male subjects, there is no perfect science to finding the definitive cause.

Why can’t I just get my short sexual performance to align with my desire to last longer? It’s not that I want to suffer PE.

Why do I feel like no matter how hard I try to avoid PE, I still have no control over my ejaculatory orgasm?

Here’s the good news:

There is nothing wrong with you or your penis. The ‘problem’ is not inside you, nor is it to do with genetics or ‘how the male species is designed to reproduce’. Men have all the orgasm control we need and we have the capacity to have intimate sex for as long as we desire – in fact, longer than we even thought possible.

The problem is in our connection between our negative thoughts and our autonomous responses within the physical body.

Most people know they want to last a lot longer during sex but then let thoughts of failure take over. It’s like driving the car and applying the handbrake at the same time.

If we can change our thought patterns for at least 30 days, we can literally override the negative automatic response of PE.

By harnessing the power of neuroplasticity and simple neuro-linguistic programming techniques, you can control when you want to orgasm. The results can feel miraculous.


  • Transforming your insecure sexual confidence into being forever fearless, poised, and self-assured. This is proven by your ability to sustain at sex every time (without having to resort to expensive and unromantic quick fixes such as medication or numbing creams).


  • Transforming yourself as a man who can attract and keep sexual partners in his life by living a deeply fulfilling life filled with positive belief patterns, proactive daily habits like simple meditation and beginner’s yoga, and a healthy diet, which all lead to deeper and more intimate sexual connections.


  • Knowing exactly how to keep your new ability to control ejaculatory orgasm (without slipping back into old negative habits) and continue to discover your masculine sense of self and create relationships that last.


But the question is, HOW do you change your thoughts of fear and a physical response (PE) that has caused so much lasting pain?
First of all, you commit to accepting what part of your situation is out of your control. You commit to taking action that improves your emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Second, you have to take action. Change can be hard. Retraining your brain and physical body can be tiring at first (until the body adapts). That’s why it’s important to start off small and have a coach to get you started. He will also keep you accountable when the going gets tough (which it will).

Third, you have to be courageous and maintain your ability to have multi-orgasmic, long-lasting sex. Commitment to the maintenance phase of change requires a clear vision of where you want to stay, the patience to prioritise your needs and lastly, humility (to accept you are still a human organism and not a robot!)

I coach men in learning these simple but life-changing techniques and transforming their sex lives for good.

As a success coach, I know that change requires a commitment to take action and maintain new behaviours and thoughts. I also know how amazing the results are: your new revitalised sex life.

When you work with me, you know I will be supporting you closely to follow a new daily practice of holistic techniques to promote mental, emotional, and physical mastery, which all combine to give you ultimate control over your ejaculatory orgasm, preventing the shame of PE.

Quick fixes such as numbing creams and medications only waste time and money, in fact they promote the opposite of accepting the situation and committing to change.

My past clients have proven how improving their psychological flexibility is the key to permanently curing PE.

This service is not for everyone.

This is why.

Some men suffer PE and still contemplate many other ways around their PE problem. Maybe they are still reaching out for expensive quick fixes, or they still believe the PE will ‘go away’ on its own one day. Perhaps they think their current partner is the cause. These men are still in denial. They are not ready to take full responsibility for using their own power to cure PE, and they will not benefit from working with me.

I can only coach men who are ready to accept complete responsibility for their current situation. I’ll be there to facilitate change, but this permanent solution to PE relies on the client being clear on knowing the things that matter and being totally committed to taking the necessary action I suggest.

These are the clients who are rewarded with a healthy confidence and a successful, sustainable sex life for years to come.

Interested in talking more about how I can help you or your relationship change for good? Email me at guy@guyfitter.com to get started today.